dilemma

You all know the lifestyle that we have so to many it seems weird that friends would come to me for marital advice in a “vanilla marriage”

So here’s the problem a friend of mine has right now:
She loves her husband, they’ve been together for 10+ years, married for almost 3 and have no kids due to medical conditions they both have…

Now the guy she dated before her hubby is saying that he wants her back and that he still loves her – he got married recently.

My friend and the ex still act like they’re a couple when they are together, they have lots of chemistry and also still obvious to everyone around them they still Love one another…

I know the 2 of them will jump each others bones if given the opportunity…

The love between her and her hubby, the chemistry they have and the way they act together is very different to what she has with her ex! Its more like they’re best friends than husband and wife.

I feel sorry for her and this situation but I also feel she shouldn’t give up her happiness to be with a guy who she married but is no longer attracted to in every way! She should go out and see if thing work out with the ex.

The ex has made it very clear that the only reason he married his now wife is because my friend is married and he didn’t want to spend the rest of his life alone…

My dilemma is: do I give her the advice to leave her hubby and a psudo-loveless marriage and try to work things out with her ex? Or do I just not say anything and wait for things to just naturally work out?

Help please

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taking on the challenge

So in the past 3 months I’ve dropped 2 jean sizes *yay me* now the challenge is to keep it down and also loose a bit more!

Its not like I’ve gone out of my way to loose it either its all about choices in the end!

My typical day would be like this:
05:30 get home from work and eat last nites supper, make the boys their lunches for work & school
06:00 spend some time with Kev, catch up on their nite and day
06:45 wake monster up and get him ready for school
07:00 they leave, I put a workout dvd on and do 30 mins of either cardio or full body workout
Go bath/shower
By 08:00 I’m sleeping soundly
Wake up at 14:15 and get ready for work

18:00 have fruit
22:30 have lunch (which usually us a Fry’s meal/ stirfry or a Tuna rice salad
02:00 have something sweet
05:00 leave work

And so the routine starts again

I must admit that I do cheat by using @FormeSlim tablets every 2nd day, especially on days where I have a cheat/binge day…

I also go walk/run every other or so day, but nothing too hectic (not ready for a marathon just yet hehe)

But so far so good!

You know you look good when people you see every day compliment you on the weightloss – it helps! Even hubby is happy with the results!

I’ve tried soo many things over the past cpl of years that I decided stuff it! Let me try things my way…

So I’ll keep updating on my progress – still a long road ahead, getting there slowly

having an off-ish day

We all know how it goes, we have good days and not so good days and then we have those “get out of my way” days…

Today has been one of the latter – after having a truly awesome weekend it ends like this!

A day where is don’t feel anything, not happy, not sad… Just not feeling at all….

Maybe its cos I didn’t sleep much this weekend or too much of this or that even maybe the pain in my back is a contributing factor – I really can’t pin point what it is

One thing is certain – Tomorrow can only be better!